As schools start again, NPR is broadcasting a series of
stories about how families are coping. In
one excellent story, Morning Edition
anchor Rachel Martin interviewed a Black single mother struggling to hold down
a job while her children learn online.
“I have four children,” the mother told Martin.
“Three boys and one daughter ranging from 13 - he's my
oldest boy, you know, he likes to stay to himself, and he loves to draw,
though; 11 - that's my sweetheart, my special little guy (laughter); 9 - that's
my athlete, that's my busybody; and 7 - my daughter, that's my cheerleader.
What emerges is a story of quiet heroism, as this mother,
always poor and sometimes desperately so, moves heaven and earth for her
children. She’s also taking college
courses online to earn a bachelor’s degree.
NPR wisely left in interruptions to the interview as the mother stopped
to talk to one child’s dentist and help another get online; they were glimpses
into how much this mother has to juggle.
You can hear the story here:
NPR did not use the names of the children – but they did
use the full name of the mother and the city where the family lives.
I wish they hadn’t.
Because the only thing standing between this family and the trauma of
needless foster care for the children is random chance. For six hours, while mom is working, the 13-year-old
has to supervise the other three, including making sure they’re online for
their classes. The wrong caseworker
could see that as “lack of supervision” or “educational neglect” or both.
If
someone, whether well-meaning or self-righteous or some combination, heeds the
constant demands to report anything and everything to child abuse hotlines --
Go ahead and call! Leave it to we
professionals to decide! You could be a
hero! – and the wrong caseworker shows up, the children could be torn from
their mother and consigned to the chaos of foster care.
It’s
clear from this excerpt from the interview that the mother knows the risk. She
almost seemed to be speaking to child protective services:
MARTIN: So there's a lot going on in your life and in
your family's life. How does the school, the education part of it, complicate
things, the fact that you don't have a safe place for kids to be during the
day?
[MOTHER]: Well, where we are is safe. It's just I
don't have - like I say, my son is old enough to keep the kids, but it's not
his total responsibility to make sure that everybody is doing what they're
supposed to do. Now, I do have access, you know, to the phones, you know, so
while I'm at work, I definitely call and do my check-ins. And at this point,
you know, for me, that's the best that I can do, you know, because I don't look
for handouts. I don't need no pity parties. I don't want nobody to feel, you
know, sorry for me because there's so many other women and families out here
that's going through the same thing, you know, and we move in silence.
It
could go the other way, of course. At least now the children can get online
from home. They had to “borrow from the library to get internet access” until a
local television station told their story and a donor stepped in.
Perhaps
the national attention will prompt someone to help the mother get a job she can
do from home, or hire a sitter – if one can be found given the current risks.
(That, after all would be in the grand American tradition of absolving
ourselves of responsibility for what we do to millions by helping the one we
hear about on radio or TV.) And perhaps
the national attention will protect the family if someone is callous enough or
naïve enough to call CPS on them.
But
it’s a crapshoot. And because this family is poor and especially because this
family also is nonwhite, every minute of every day this family has to worry
about what the child welfare surveillance state might do to them.
The California case [See update]
If
you think that’s farfetched, recall what’s happening in Massachusetts
and New
York City – or consider What might be a strikingly similar case from California, as
described in
this news account:
A Taco Bell proved critical for two little girls who
were briefly using its Wi-Fi for school -- something that almost proved tragic
after the kids were nearly taken from their mother.
A photo of two young girls sitting outside of a Taco
Bell in Salinas, CA -- just outside of Monterey -- recently went viral ...
which shows them plopped down on the concrete with their laptops and notepads
out, while two TB employees come out to talk to them. … According to local
community members who stepped in to help the family ... they were almost
separated by cops and CPS officials, who apparently came knocking.
UPDATE: The original story has been updated with a statement from the police department saying they never had any contact with the family. There is no word concerning CPS.
When CPS is at the door
We
also got a rare detailed look last month at what happens when CPS does come to the door,
and how much harm it can do, even when they don’t walk out with the children. We got that look as a result of a court
decision in Kentucky. The decision comes
in a lawsuit by a Kentucky family, represented by the Home School Legal Defense
Association.
CPS
agencies like to sell us on the idea that a child abuse investigation is no big
deal – just a quick check if the family needs anything and, if there’s no
problem, they go away. As the caseworker in the Kentucky case put it: “We’re
just going to consider this an oopsy daisy.” Readers of this Lexington,
(Kentucky) Herald-Leader story might disagree.
The Herald-Leader reports that it began in
2017 when Holly Curry left her six children in her minivan for five to ten
minutes to run into a coffee shop and get muffins. It was a cool day, the doors were locked and
the engine and fan were running. Someone
called police. The officer did not charge the mother. But he did notify child
protective services – something he now says he regrets.
As the judge noted, when a Kentucky child abuse investigator, Jeanetta Childress
and Hardin County sheriff’s Deputy Michael Furnish later showed up at the
family home, “they knew the Curry children had been utterly unharmed while
waiting in their climate-controlled car for the time it took Holly to run in a
coffee shop.”
Nevertheless,
they got Curry to let them into the home – by threatening to come back and take
away the children if she didn't. Then, as the Herald-Leader reports:
Writing in a court motion, Curry’s lawyers said that
Childress “proceeded to strip search the children. Starting with the younger
children, she pulled up their pant legs to look at their calves, then
unbuttoned their pants, undid the buttons on their onesies, pulled them up to
view their chests, stomachs and abdomen area, then undid their diapers and put
her fingers down and looked inside.”
For the older children who wore underwear, Childress
pulled it aside, looked inside and put her hands down their underwear, the
lawyers wrote.
“Deputy Furnish was present while all six children
were strip searched,” Curry’s lawyers wrote.
Childress
herself claimed such stripsearching is standard operating procedure. As the judge noted: "Incredibly, Childress repeatedly testified that she believed she should ‘automatically’ strip search any child who was four or under.” And well, if nothing is found, after all,
it’s just “an oopsy daisy.”
The
judge saw it differently:
The judge wrote in his order last week that the social
worker and deputy had no right to strip search the children in violation of
their “fundamental dignity.”
“Here, Childress lacked even a shadow of probable
cause that the Currys physically abused their children,” the judge wrote.
But,
as the story notes, that didn’t stop Childress from allegedly issuing one last
threat:
“If we ever get
a call against your family again, bad things will happen to you and we’ll take
your children,” according to the Currys’ attorneys.
The
judge concluded his ruling this way:
“Act One: An ‘attentive and loving’ mother gets
muffins for her children. Act Two:
There’s a knock on her door and a threat by the government to take away her
children. Act Three: Her children are strip searched without cause.”
“America’s founding generation may never have imagined
a Cabinet for Health and Family Services. But they knew their fair share of
unwelcome constables. And they added a Fourth Amendment to our Constitution to
protect against this three-act tragedy.”
But
this drama has had a long, long run. And there’s no sign that the show is going
to close anytime soon, unless we realize that, for the sake of millions of
vulnerable children, it’s time to bring down the curtain.